ON JUNE 3RD MY WIFE, PAM, AND I CELEBRATED OUR 20TH WEDDING ANNIVERSARY…….IT IS SO HARD TO BELIEVE THAT 20YRS HAVE COME AND GONE SO FAST BUT THE THING IS WE ARE STILL TOGETHER…….IT HAS NOT BEEN EASY BUT I KNOW WE LOVE EACH OTHER MORE TODAY THAN WE DID 20 YEARS AGO.
I WANT TO SIMPLY GIVE YOU A TIME-LINE OF OUR FIRST 20YRS OF MARRIAGE…….LET’S BEGIN:
JUNE 3, 1989- NICE SUNNY DAY WHICH WAS OUR WEDDING DAY…..FAMILY AND FRIENDS GATHERED TO WATCH US GET MARRIED THIS DAY 20YRS AGO. WE HAD OVER 200 PEOPLE AT OUR WEDDING……
1990- SPENT OUR FIRST YEAR IN OUR APARTMENT IN ATTLEBORO MASSACHUSETTS……I WORKED FOR BRAININ ADVANCE INDUSTRIES AS A QUALITY CONTROL INSPECTOR WHILE PAM WORKED FOR JOLLY FARM DAYCARE AS A TEACHER…….THEN IN AUGUST WE MOVED TO FLORIDA…..
1991- OUR FIRST YEAR IN LAKELAND FLORIDA…..WE LIVED IN A ONE BEDROOM APARTMENT. I WAS IN COLLEGE AT SOUTHEASTERN WHILE PAM WORKED FOR KINDERCARE AS A TEACHER…..I WORKED AT THE LAKELAND SQUARE MALL THEN STARTED AT MCDONALD’S PART-TIME…..MADE $4.25/HR……..LOL
1992- OUR SECOND YEAR IN LAKELAND FLORIDA……I WAS STILL TAKING CLASSES AT SOUTHEASTERN AND PAM WAS TAKING SEVERAL CLASSES AS WELL…….I WAS WORKING FOR MCDONALD’S PART-TIME AND PAM STILL WORKING FOR KINDERCARE…….
1993- OUR THIRD YEAR IN LAKELAND FLORIDA……I WAS STILL TAKING CLASSES AT SOUTHEASTERN BUT CHANGED JOBS……I STARTED WORKING FOR DISCOUNT AUTO PARTS/ADVANCE AUTO PARTS PART-TIME….PAM HAS FALSE ALARM BEING POSSIBLY PREGNANT………PAM STILL WORKING AT KINDERCARE…….
1994- WE MOVE INTO 2 BEDROOM APARTMENT IN SAME COMPLEX IN LAKELAND FLORIDA……I AM STILL IN COLLEGE AND WORKING FOR DISCOUNT AUTO WHILE PAM IS WORKING FOR KINDERCARE…….
1995- DUE TO PERSONAL REASONS WE MOVE BACK TO MASSACHUSETTS FROM LAKELAND FLORIDA……WE LIVE WITH MY PARENTS FOR SEVERAL MONTHS BEFORE LIVING IN NORTH ATTLEBORO IN A NEW APARTMENT……I ONCE AGAIN WORK FOR BRAININ ADVANCE INDUSTRIES AS A QUALITY CONTROL INSPECTOR WHILE PAM RETURNS TO JOLLY FARM DAYCARE………
1996-1999 LIVING IN NORTH ATTLEBORO MASSACHUSETTS…..I AM WORKING FOR BRAININ ADVANCE INDUSTRIES AND PAM STILL WORKING FOR JOLLY FARM………
1998- STARTED CHURCH SOFTBALL TEAM WITH ASSISTANCE FROM OTHERS…….GREAT TIME…….
1999- FALL OF 1999 I LEAVE BRAININ ADVANCE TO WORK FOR CLEANING SERVICE……….PAM STILL AT JOLLY FARM….
2000- MARCH WE MOVE TO LEE SUMMIT MISSOURI………WE LIVE WITH PAM’S PARENTS FOR SEVERAL MONTHS BEFORE GETTING AN APARTMENT IN RAYTOWN MISSOURI……PAM TAKES POSITION AT CHURCH TO DIRECT THE CHURCH DAYCARE……..I RETURN TO COLLEGE AT MID-AMERICA NAZARENE UNIVERSITY IN FALL OF 2000……..I WORK PART-TIME AT CHURCH DAYCARE AS JANITOR WHILE ATTENDING COLLEGE…….EVANGEL TEMPLE IN KANSAS CITY…..
2001- I DO MY INTERNSHIP AT HEARTLAND COMMUNITY CHURCH AND GRADUATE FROM MID-AMERICA NAZARENE UNIVERSITY……PAM LOOSES HER JOB AT EVANGEL TEMPLE SINCE THEY DECIDE TO CLOSE THE DAYCARE…….DUE TO FINANCIAL AND PERSONAL ISSUES WE MOVE BACK TO MASSACHUSETTS AND SPEND FIVE MONTHS LIVING WITH OUR FRIENDS JOHN AND DEE UNTIL NOVEMBER OF 2001…….PAM RETURNS TO WORK AT JOLLY FARM DAYCARE DURING THE FIVE MONTHS AND I FINALLY GET A JOB AT AUTOZONE AFTER 9/11………WE THEN MOVE BACK TO KANSAS AND STAY WITH A FRIEND THERE UNTIL THE SPRING OF 2002……..THANKS MIKE!!
2002- WE MOVE INTO APARTMENT COMPLEX IN OVERLAND PARK KANSAS………I AM WORKING FOR AUTOZONE AND PAM WORKS AT WALMART FOR AWHILE BEFORE TAKING A JOB AT CHILDREN’S WORLD AS A DIRECTOR IN TRAINING…….SHE LATER BECOMES DIRECTOR DURING THIS YEAR. I TAKE AN ASSISTANT MANAGERS POSITION WITH ADVANCE AUTO PARTS IN THE FALL.
2003- LIVING IN OVERLAND PARK…….I AM WORKING FOR ADVANCE IN SHAWNEE MISSION KANSAS WHILE PAM IS DIRECTOR FOR CHILDREN’S WORLD IN SHAWNEE……..
2004- STILL IN OVERLAND PARK AND BUSY WITH OUR JOBS WE VACATION TO MASSACHUSETTS IN THE FALL TO ATTEND MY UNCLE GEORGE’S FUNERAL. THE REDSOX WIN THE WORLD SERIES WHICH WAS THE FIRST TIME IN OVER 80YRS…..WE RETURN TO KANSAS AND I GET PROMOTED TO STORE MANAGER FOR ADVANCE AUTO PARTS…
2005- STILL LIVING IN OVERLAND PARK……..I AM A STORE MANAGER FOR ADVANCE UNTIL LATE SUMMER WHEN I DECIDE TO BE AN ASSISTANT MANAGER ONCE AGAIN. I MADE BONUS AS A MANAGER BUT FELT IT WAS A GOOD IDEA TO STEP DOWN…I WORK AGAIN AS AN ASSISTANT MANAGER FOR THE KANSAS CITY KANSAS STORE UNTIL SPRING OF 2006. PAM BUSY AT CHILDREN’S WORLD………..
2006- I AM HOSPITALIZED AND DIAGNOSED WITH DILATED CARDIOMYOPATHY (CONGESTIVE HEART FAILURE) IN MARCH OF 06 AND SPEND A YEAR AND A FEW MONTHS ON DISABILITY……..I TRY TO RETURN TO ADVANCE IN JULY OF 06 BUT CANNOT RESUME TO THE PREVIOUS POSITION I HAD…….I SPEND THIS TIME ON DISABILITY……OUR INCOME DROPS DRAMATICALLY……..PAM IS ARRESTED AND CHARGED WITH FAILURE TO REPORT ABUSE THE WEEK BEFORE CHRISTMAS……THIS TURNS INTO A LEGAL BATTLE FROM HELL………..
2007- CHILDREN’S WORLD CHANGES NAME TO KNOWLEDGE LEARNING CORPORATION AND HIRES PAM AN ATTORNEY. SHE IS LATER TERMINATED BY THE COMPANY………SHE COLLECTS UNEMPLOYMENT WHILE I AM ON DISABILITY FOR HEART FAILURE……OUR INCOME SEEMS TO DROP BIG TIME WITH MEDICAL BILLS PILING UP ALONG WITH PAYING RENT…….DUE TO ALL THE ISSUES WE MOVE BACK TO MASSACHUSETTS AND STAY WITH MY DAD………PAM GETS JOB WITH NEXT GENERATION CHILDREN CENTERS AS A PROGRAM MANAGER……….I GET JOB AS AUTO CENTER MANAGER FOR SEARS IN WOONSOCKET JUST BEFORE THANKSGIVING……..I START BOWLING AGAIN IN THE FALL…..
2008- PAM AND I LIVING WITH MY DAD IN NORTON……..I CHANGE JOBS IN FALL OF 08 AND TAKE STORE DIRECTOR POSITION AT HOLLYWOOD VIDEO IN PEMBROKE MASSACHUSETTS……..PAM TRANSFERS TO THE NEW WALPOLE CENTER FOR NEXT GENERATION CHILDREN’S CENTER….SHE THEN GOES BACK INTO THE CLASSROOM AS A TEACHER…..PAM STARTS TAKING ON-LINE CLASSES FROM ASHFORD UNIVERSITY…PAM ATTENDS LIVING WATERS…….
2009- CURRENTLY PAM AND I LIVING WITH MY DAD IN NORTON AND BOTH OF US STILL WORKING……….LOOKING FOR OWN PLACE AND A FRESH START………..
THIS ALL HAS TAKEN PLACE IN 20YRS…….OF COURSE THERE IS SO MUCH MORE BUT THAT WOULD TAKE SEVERAL BOOKS…..WE HAVE BEEN THROUGH MUCH AND HAVE ENDURED 20 YRS WITH THE LAST THREE BEING THE MOST DIFFICULT WE HAVE EVER FACED…….OUR LOVE FOR EACH OTHER HAS GROWN SO IT IS NICE TO KNOW THAT AFTER 20YRS WE CAN LOOK BACK AND SAY WE ARE STILL TOGETHER…….OUR LOVE HAS BEEN TESTED BUT YET HERE WE ARE STILL TOGETHER AND STILL HOLDING ON TO EACH OTHER………OUR LOVE FOR EACH OTHER HAS CARRIED US THROUGH……….HAPPY ANNIVERSARY HONEY!!! I HOPE THE NEXT FEW YEARS WILL BE YEARS OF STARTING OVER………WE CERTAINLY NEED IT!!! LOVE YOU BUNCHES!!
YOUR HUBBY,
RON